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The Saints

Peter captured so beautifully the rollercoaster that November is for me. I always find this time of year a bit unsettling: the shorter days, the cold north wind after the tease of a warm day, the chores I should be doing and can’t get to, the looooong lead up to Christmas, the passing of another year.

It’s probably not a surprise to anyone who has read along with this blog that I am often thinking of times past, but lately the people who are long gone are gathering around me in ways I’ve not felt before. Most days I drive by the houses where generations of my family have lived and I picture them inside, or working in the barn, or standing by the road chatting with a neighbour. These houses are empty, uninhabited, so available for my imagination to fill them again. It is comforting but strange, as if something happened on All Saints’ Day this year that released them back into the world. I’m not going mad, but perhaps there are things I need to learn from these people.

Freeland 1935. My grandfather has stooks of grain in his field at the top of the photo, and my mother is living with her grandparents at the farm in the bottom, on the corner of the Barlow and Murray roads.

You know, that guy on that show

US President Joe Biden’s granddaughter, Naomi Biden, will be marrying a fellow called Peter Neal. Saw this photo of the couple this morning.

Peter Neal and Naomi Biden

Hmmm. There was something about Neal’s eyes and smile that reminded me of someone, a television actor from my childhood, but I couldn’t remember who it was, or what show he had been on, but I knew the actor I was thinking of had dark hair and a moustache.

I showed the photo to Steven, who is a decade older than me and has a much better memory, but he drew a blank. So I added a moustache.

Very natural.

Funnily enough, this still didn’t help Steven, and neither TinEye or Google Image Search could pinpoint the 70s star with my life-like rendering. I mean, come on, that moustache looked so natural! You know, that guy on that show! Nope.

Needing to scratch this pop culture itch, I searched for “1970s US sitcom casts” and scrolled until I found him.

The cast of Petticoat Junction and not Peter Neal.

Gomez Addams, Commander Sherman, husband of Patty Duke – John Astin! I didn’t watch either the Addams Family or Petticoat Junction, but there he was, sitting in a dark corner of my tv-addled brain, barely discernible, but just clear enough to let me match him with someone who looks absolutely nothing like him. Good try, brain.

Measuring Garlic

My third crop of garlic went in the ground this afternoon. I started with two bulbs of Phillips, a hardneck variety purchased from Hope Seeds, in 2020. That duo yielded 22 bulbs that I planted last fall, with the miraculous result that all 150 cloves planted grew! I credit the aged chicken manure produced by our little flock for the good outcome.

Phillips proud of Phillips.

I kept the 50 largest bulbs to plant this fall and the rest I have been using in the kitchen. Local garlic is wonderful but expensive, so it really is a worthwhile crop, even in my small garden. It doesn’t take a lot of work, and having something to plant in the fall when everything else is going dormant and there is less to do in the garden is very hopeful.

I plant garlic in rows 6″ apart. Luckily the dibber I use to poke the hole for each clove has a shaft that is exactly 6″ long, so it’s easy to space them out in the bed.

But equally as lucky, if I just want to poke a hole with my finger, is that I know that my hand is 6″ long, and my index finger is almost 3″ long, pretty much the perfect depth for a garlic clove. One of our set design teachers at the National Theatre School taught me that trick, to measure your hands and fingers so you would never be without a measure. It is one of the “handiest” hacks I know!

My hand is a half a foot, but a whole hand!
And 3″ wide.

A Flock of Robins

Just now, as I was looking out the living room window trying to decide how to spend this day, a flock of robins bounced down our lane. Two, then three, leapfrogging over each other. Moving from the red dirt road to the green grass, all of it covered with leaves from the white birch, the maskwi.

I counted seven in all, running and hopping, turning over leaves that were nearly the same colour as their beautiful rusty breasts. They were finding little earthworms and the ancient sowbugs, tiny crustaceans that walk on earth.

As the last robin hopped out of my view, I was still undecided as to what I should do with the rest of this day, still fresh and new, but my robin friends certainly reminded me to walk lightly on the earth and appreciate whatever I find. The sun is finally up and the maskwi are glowing in its light.

Stoic Week 2022

Modern Stoicism are offering their ”live like a Stoic” week again this year starting October 24, and you can still sign up. I’ve been participating in this free program for many years, and while I probably couldn’t call myself a devoted Stoic, Stoic Week has given me tools that I believe help me feel more balanced and happier. It is now a rare morning when I don’t think upon waking: “Today I will encounter things I can control and things I can’t control, and I will try to deal with both calmly.”

I have not yet written about my family’s experience with post tropical storm Fiona, but I was surprised at how I was able to emerge from our house after the storm, faced with weeks worth of cleanup and an altered landscape, and just look at it all but not pass judgement. It was what it was. I have said many times over the past three weeks: ”At least a tree can only fall once.”

For someone who has always predicted, planned and prepared to try to stay ahead of problems, this calm and, dare I say, Stoic outlook was proof that at least some of what I’ve been studying these past few years has worked. Stoicism is not at all about becoming emotionless or robotic; it is about finding balance and perspective, and learning how to ride out the storms of life, both literal and figurative.

Goldilocks

It’s sort of remarkable that I’ve reached this point in my blogging life and not really talked much about decluttering or minimalism. I am not a minimalist – far from it – but love the idea of it, and aspire to live with fewer things cluttering my house and mind.

Just as life is too short to eat terrible bread, it is also to short to use a terrible pen. Once upon a time I would pick up free pens wherever I saw one, and they were almost all terrible. The ink never runs freely and smoothly, they don’t last, and generally tend to be better advertisements than writing utensils.

The result of all this was that I used to have a drawer full of pens, but as most of them didn’t work or worked poorly, I usually grabbed the same one every day, most often a blue ink retractable Papermate Flexgrip, which I bought by the box.

I finally came to the conclusion that keeping things I would never use was silly and a waste of resources. If someone else can use it, then pass it along or, better yet, don’t acquire something I will never use or never really enjoy.

So the obvious first step was easy: stop taking free pens! Next, I took the pens I didn’t want and that worked ok to meetings with me, where someone usually forgot to take a pen and wanted to borrow mine. “Here, take this one, and keep it,” I would say, like Daddy Warbucks. Little did they know they were helping me out more than I was helping them.

Over the dozen or so years of this whittling down, I’ve made myself use pens that worked well but didn’t like until they finally ran out of ink. Now I can take the dead pens and throw them in a recycling bin at Staples, where I am optimistic they actually make something with them and not just greenwash them into the local landfill.

This morning the last Flexgrip I have gave up the ghost. I am left with a Bic Round Stic that Steven got at a conference. When it wears out, I have the Sheaffer pen someone gave me when I graduated high school in 1984. I was able to buy a new cartridge for it, and it will likely be the only ballpoint I will own.

Going going gone

Mel’s Tea Room

News out of Sackville, New Brunswick that Mel’s Tea Room is closing, sending Mount Allison University alumni into fits of nostalgia. Generations of Mount Allison University students ate, socialised and studied at Mel’s, and I was certainly one of them. It was like something out of a movie: green walls, counter with stools, hard booths, great diner food and strong coffee. Always someone coming and going. When I attended Mount A in the late 80s, their magazine section was second to none.

Town residents and students had an uneasy relationship at times, similar to the way people who live in a touristy city feel about those who crowd their streets. While residents knew that the university was good for the economy of the town, we students could certainly be a pain. At Mel’s, though, everyone sort of just got along on common ground. Even as thoughtless youth, we knew it was a place to revere and appreciate. Everyone loved Mel’s

I have only been there a few times since I graduated in 1989, the last being in 2013 when Steven wrote the lyrics for an opera presented by students of the Mt. A music faculty. I grabbed some shots on my last visit, the diner eerily sort of empty that night. I had my usual club sandwich and fries and soaked the place in, remembering all the fun I had there, all my pals, the thrill of being one in a long conveyor belt of students who felt at home at Mel’s, knowing I would eventually be replaced, but loving the smoke and coffee and fries and friends and laughter.

Mel’s tea Room
Rainy night on Bridge Street
Mel’s Booths
The booths, the floor, those green walls
Jukebox and Speakers
Jukebox and fabulous speakers
Mel’s Chair
Sit a while
Mel’s Menu
Club sandwich and fries, please
Veggie Burger?
Veggie burger?
Mel’s Booth
Booth wall, complete with names carved on trim
From A Booth
View from a booth

Ellerslie Elementary School 50th Anniversary

The elementary school I attended celebrates its 50th anniversary today. 22 smaller, mostly one-room schools, were closed at the end of the 1971-72 school year and all students then bussed in September 1972 to a new facility that had been built in Ellerslie.

I don’t remember the official opening ceremony, though I know I was there, as were my parents. Premier Alex Campbell and other dignitaries made speeches, laid a cornerstone, unveiled a plaque, and then everyone enjoyed sandwiches, sweets, juice and tea provided by a couple of local Women’s Institute groups. WIs were heavily involved in supporting the schools in their individual communities, so they were primed and ready to support this new facility.

The school was a modern, clean building, replacing old wooden facilities that had been well maintained, but were certainly from a different time. A few people were against the amalgamation, some fearing the loss of their individual community’s identity or concerned about the length of time that children would spend on buses, and others who predictably thought that “what was good enough for us should be good enough for them!” With most of PEI marching happily along to the Alex Campbell government’s drumbeat of development, modernity and prosperity, those few who were not in favour were ignored and, as happens with all change, within a few years most forgot there had ever been a school in their community, the buildings either being repurposed as community halls, turned into homes or sheds, or demolished.

The new school had an open concept plan, with sliding accordion dividers between most of the classrooms. This “one big classroom” design was well received at first, but didn’t remain popular for long, and Ellerslie Elementary now has cinderblock walls between classrooms to keep noise and distractions down. There was a large gymnasium, music room, art room, a windowless room that we seemed to only use to watch NFB films, and a large central library space. There were water fountains, banks of trays by the entrance to put your muddy or snowy footwear, and everything was bright, airy and clean.

I remember very little about my first year at school, but I do recall that some of the furniture hadn’t arrived for the first day of classes, so we little ones in first grade sat on the floor. I remember loving my young and energetic homeroom teacher, Mrs. Jelley. I remember how big the grade six children looked, and because children could fail to pass a grade in those days and be kept back to repeat it, there might have been a couple of teenagers in grade six.

Checking out my new school summer 1972

As an only child, I was excited to meet new children, though I did have some neighbours, Sunday school pals and cousins with me, which was a comfort. I remember a new friend helping me tie my shoelace when I couldn’t remember how it was done. As the oldest in her family, she was used to helping her younger siblings with this task and was a good little teacher. And I remember being told to stop talking, and that happened more than once!

Tiny me off to school on what looks like a chilly September day in 1972

The school had some odd features beyond the lack of walls. The gym was carpeted, and this led to nasty rug burns when you tripped and slid (and six year olds trip often!). Much of the rest of the school was also carpeted, making the dry winter months one long string of shocks as children shuffled their feet to electrify themselves and then tapped another kid as they walked by.

Mrs. Jelley was a newly-graduated teacher and full of modern ideas, but some of the other teachers seemed to struggle a bit with the new regime. Teaching in a one room school meant they had been able to run their school pretty much as they wanted, within the curriculum set by the province, and only overseen by occasional visits from school inspectors. Now these teachers had a principal as their onsite boss, had to work collaboratively with other teachers, and had relinquished some of their instructional roles – physical education, library, music – to specialists. Some teachers got along fine and finished out their careers at the school, and others probably retired earlier than they might have had they remained in the one room school setting.

One thing that changed immediately in the new school was the use of corporal punishment. I remember one of the older teachers trying to deal with a little classmate who was talking when he should have been listening. The teacher told him to be quiet and continued with the lesson. The boy didn’t obey, so the teacher called him to the front of the class, told him to hold out his hand, and slapped his palm hard with a ruler. I don’t know for a fact, but I’m pretty certain the teacher was spoken to by the principal, and that was the last time such a thing occurred.

At that time we were not far removed from the days of children being strapped by their teachers, and it would have been the rare parent who wouldn’t have backed up such an action by a teacher, so while it was startling and scary to see someone get their hand slapped with a ruler, it was not really unexpected because older children had warned us about such things. We had been prepared for it, but luckily that would not happen at Ellerslie again.

I was in the fortunate position of attending basically brand new schools for all of my twelve school years: Ellerslie Elementary, Hernewood (grades 7-9) and Westisle (grades 10-12). I had some great teachers, lots of opportunity for extracurricular activities that expanded my world, and met some lovely classmates who are still my friends.

I scanned articles and documents my mother saved from the school’s opening for the 40th anniversary in 2012, when some of us who started grade one in 1972 attended a ceremony and planted a tree at the school, so I’m sharing them here for reference and remembrance. 50 years, gone in a blink.

Part 1 of front page article about new Ellerslie school
Second part of article
Letter to parents about official opening
List of Ellerslie staff 1972
Official Opening Program Cover
Official Opening Program Page One
Official Opening Program Page Two
From Journal Pioneer

Rotary Un-Smartphone

Justine Haupt has started taking preorders for rotary cellphone kits and has released a video explaining the whole thing (it includes a great Contact Easter egg!). I don’t need a rotary cellphone, but love that this wildly intelligent and creative person has created it just because she wanted one. The combination of an ePaper display, rotary dial and real ringer bell is so steam-punk exciting!

One seafoam, please.